Find an accountability person or an ally when going into family situations.
Taking an inventory of your capacity for dealing with family. If you are low, make sure you don’t commit to extra things.
Setting up boundaries and limits ahead of time.
Remember not taking things personally, especially when dealing with triggering family members.
Remember that your members are just human beings having their own human experience
All your feelings are valid even the anger, resentment, and anxiety.
Triggers are reminders of your growth and healing.
You have the opportunity to model your tools.
Set up an escape plan, take breaks and you are not obligated to stay in a stressful situation even when there is festive lighting.